Weekly Update #95

I didn’t mean to let 3 weeks pass by with no update but I did and now, yet again, things have changed quite a bit.

I’m currently in the hospital in Austin and will be for at least the next week. I was supposed to be going to Houston this week to get my second dose of my trial drug, but instead I need emergent surgery. The single vertebra (T5) of mine that has had cancer in it for a while has progressed and as a result is now compressing my spinal cord and causing some pretty scary symptoms like I can barely control my legs to walk and I have totally lost control of my bladder function. Spinal surgery sounds pretty scary and like something I would normally take longer to consider, but if I wait I am definitely getting worse and if I do it I have a shot at getting better. My pain is becoming less and less well-managed each day, I need oxygen because I don’t get enough on room air, and I need help with things like putting on my socks.

This also puts everything else up in the air. When can I get my next dose of my trial drug? This surgery only helps with the compression symptoms, but not with the growing cancer in my spine and this surgeon thinks that radiation will probably be the answer there, sometime between 2-6 weeks post surgery. I have no idea what recovery will be like, what my new QOL will be. I have been in an intense amount of pain lately so decreasing that would be incredible. All of this, we just have to do the surgery and see how recovery looks to get an idea. Oh, and while the pain is likely to improve right away, the bladder and gait issues will probably take longer and are tough to predict.

I am going to be coming home to many new medical devices. I had already bought myself a shower chair last week, as well as a recliner with a feature called lift assist, that helps me get out of the chair more easily. I think there will also be a hospital bed and maybe a new walker and maybe a bedside commode. Even my house is going to make me feel like a sick person.

My joy for this upcoming week is that I am in Austin and I am allowed a single visitor each day. They can come and go, it just cannot be multiple people in a single day. So my dad hangs out with me a lot and Wes can be here on the day of surgery. Thanks for following along, y’all.

Weekly Update #94

Welcome to 2021, the 7th calendar year since my cancer diagnosis. I love being able to type stuff like that, to see how very long I have been facing this disease and the associated treatment. Somewhere along the way I stopped having an interest in resolutions for the new year. There is nothing magical about the date 1/1 that suddenly makes it possible for me to become a different person; if I want my life to be different I can start that process any time. That said, I see the value in assessing the previous year – what brought joy and sadness and fulfillment – recognizing that things that bring me sadness are not necessarily bad and productivity is not my ultimate goal. In my reflections I noticed how much time I spent short of breath this year and realized I wanted to reconnect with my breathing more this year. This means the deep breathing of meditation and it means breath representing life and it also means using my inhaler and it means pushing myself physically to where I am breathing hard and maintaining those muscles.

Speaking of breath, last week I had a bronchoscopy, a procedure to remove tumors growing into my airways. At one place where I had nearly 100% blockage they were able to reduce it by 95% (!!!), however at another location with the same near complete blockage they were unable to remove the tumor. The pulmonology team is not sure how much better my breathing will be overall, but I can already tell the difference in how out of breath I get doing daily tasks. The bronchoscopy made my trial team decide to push out my start date from last week to this week. I was really disappointed in that choice at first, but ultimately it was the right one; I really did need that extra time to heal and not wonder if I was feeling the way I did because of my new drug or the procedure.

I am still glad that I shared here that I was going to be getting my trial that day because a young adult cancer friend from Austin reached out that she was going to be there that day getting an infusion, and maybe I could stop by. I am so so glad she reached out and that I was able to go visit her. The infusion room can be lonely, especially now when you can’t have your normal people there visiting with you, and it was so lovely that the stars aligned for this meeting. Friend, I’m sorry I was such distracted company. It was the day after my procedure and I was pretty miserable with pain, so I wasn’t the sparkling visitor I aim to be.

Then I got to go home and be with my family again for 4 whole days! It was delightful to just be in a room with my daughter and/or husband and listen to them talk. Monday we had to return to Houston and got humbled. I took too long showering and when I got out and sat down to recover I coughed once and immediately started throwing up into the conveniently placed barf bag right next to me (I get them from the hospital a lot and stash them around my house). It took a couple hours before I was ready to dress and finish packing and face the car. Apparently during that time my dad pulled my husband aside to say, “It’s easy to forget how sick she really is,” which is heartbreaking to hear and know is completely true. Even at home where I do talk about feeling my worst, they mostly hear about how good I feel because I just don’t like to spend my time focused on feeling yucky.

Tuesday was my final pre-trial CT and my first pre-CT vomit. I am just not doing well on that front lately, y’all. Once it starts my appetite goes but having a too empty stomach for too long seems to be a trigger. And on top of all the coughing I have been doing lately it just destroyed my back muscles in a way that I am still trying to heal. So it worked out that I spent Wednesday sitting in an adjustable hospital bed for 10 hours getting my new trial med and having an entirely uneventful day. And since then I continue to have no noticeable side effects. So I can focus on dealing with the lingering ones from the bronchoscopy – coughing, pain from coughing, trouble sleeping because of the aforementioned. I’m learning how to use my new inhaler and nebulizer to make breathing easier and I don’t know yet if they’ll be permanent parts of my life or just get me through this time period.

My joy for the week is how snuggly my husband and daughter are the first 24 hours after I get home from Houston each time. I am always sore and tired after getting out of the car and just park myself on the couch under my favorite blanket. Having the people I love most come to me with their love helps revitalize me every time. I hope you have equal joy in your lives this week and for the year to come.

Weekly Update #93

Y’all, I lied to my doctor today and it was such a dumb thing to do. I am so very lucky that things worked out in my favor despite my deception. I haven’t mentioned it here much, but my breathing has really declined in the past 3 weeks – you can hear me wheezing on every inhale and exhale and if I do a task like, say, put on pants I have to sit down and recover my breath. After mentioning this to every doctor I saw at MDA, hoping someone would get me relief, I finally got a referral to a pulmonologist. This pulmonologist is going to do a procedure tomorrow to remove some tumor that is growing into one of my lower airways and possibly causing all this shortness of breath. And this is where the lying came in. I was supposed to stop taking my blood thinner a few days ago and totally forgot, so I lied and said I hadn’t taken it the night before. My doctor said that was fine, I only needed two days off the Xarelto (my blood thinner) to be safe for the procedure. As soon as I left her office I regretted my decision to lie and knew I needed to fess up because it is just not safe to mess around with unexpected bleeding during a procedure.

My next stop was phlebotomy (blood draw) and I got to see a nurse there that I have really bonded with. I told her I was sad today due to my actions and started crying. She gave me an appropriate side eye when I told her I lied, but was incredibly gentle with me while telling me that I did need to tell the truth. We talked about how sometimes mistakes like these help things to work out the way they are supposed to, which I have totally seen in the past and believe. She held my hand and told me it was going to be okay. After leaving phlebotomy I sat on a bench outside and called pulmonology and told them about my lie. The nurse said she thought my procedure could still happen on time and after checking with the doctor confirmed that to be the case. I feel so incredibly lucky that my error didn’t alter my schedule, and I hope I have gained more bravery to tell the truth to my providers in the future. During the consult the pulmonologist did warn me that there is a blockage in front of the one they really want to clear, and that they may not be able to get through the first one to actually give me any breathing relief, but still thinks it is worth trying. I really appreciate her honesty so it won’t be a total surprise if I wake up unchanged tomorrow.

I am all done with my pelvic radiation to decrease the mass in my pelvis and as a result get rid of the pain and discomfort it was causing. While I am still recovering from radiation, I am feeling better every day with more energy and almost never any pain anymore. One thing about killing cancer tissue is that then your body wants to get rid of it, so I am still passing dead cancer and it looks like I will be for a while. Due to my anatomy and the location of the tumor it’s basically like I will be having my period for a month. It is way easier on my body than a single traumatic event where I expel it all, but it also means I am constantly watching for anemia.

I realize that last time I skipped over a wildly traumatic experience that happened in that time period and I do want to come back and revisit it because it was one of the top 5 scariest events of my life. I got to Houston for my radiation by taking a bus and my dad met up with the bus to drive me to our AirBnB. Exactly where and when this handoff occurred was a terrible rain and more importantly windstorm. Based on the reading I have done since, my estimate is that it was windspeeds of about 60mph, no exaggeration. Walking the half a block from the bus to my dad’s car was terrifying and took all of my energy. As soon as I got to the car I had to sit down and spent 5 minutes gasping for air before I could catch my breath. When my dad got in the car his door was nearly blown off the hinges, it took about 6 tries using all of his strength to get it shut. And it felt awful to sit there helpless, knowing that there was nothing I could do to help. But the scariest part was afterward as I sat in the car recovering, seeing this evidence of how vulnerable I am and knowing that 5 minutes alone in that weather and I could easily die. I am so unused to having my life threatened by mother nature and it was terrifying to experience. I still get a little nervous whenever the wind picks up now, so I’ll clearly be processing this for a little while.

So my schedule for this week is jam-packed. Today I saw the pulmonologist and had blood work and another Covid test. Tomorrow I’ll see my trial doctor and get final sign off for my new trial, and after that have my procedure to hopefully help my breathing. They say recovery from that will be minimal, which is good because the next day I get my first dose of my new trial immunotherapy drug as part of a 9 hour appointment (they have to do blood draws for up to 8 hours after my 1 hour infusion). Then Thursday I have one more blood draw in the morning and finally my dad and I will get back on the road to Austin. It will be New Year’s Eve so we want to get home and off the road as soon as possible. I am looking forward to knocking all these things out before the end of the year, and being able to start 2021 with my worst side effects addressed and a new trial underway.

My time at home between last week and this one was wonderful. It was such a relief to be in my own bed with my family. My husband worked so hard to clean the house top to bottom for our return, which he totally didn’t need to do, but was exquisite to come home to. My joy for the week is easy, my daughter played us a Christmas concert on her piano. She has been practicing Christmas songs most of this year and it felt amazing to hear her perform them and eventually invite us to join in and sing-along. She also made us playbills with the date and time, an enumerated set list and quotes about her playing she solicited by us, “Nothing makes me happier than listening to you play piano” – Christina Aurora Bain to Marlowe. The whole was incredible.

Weekly Update #92

Things have been moving at warp speed over the past two weeks and there is so much to catch y’all up on! Last time I was getting ready to meet with radiation oncology and kind of bummed that it looked like my family would need to settle in Houston over the holidays to get this treatment in. I was trying to have good spirits about it, but it was a tough pill to swallow.

Well, that consult with radiation oncology went better than I could have imagined, and instead my doctor designed a plan that had me start this past Monday, December 14 and has me finish up on Wednesday, December 23. So I get to head home to Austin that day and be with my family for the Christmas holiday, which is really special to us. And, to add to my fortune, my dad offered/insisted on driving the 1700 miles from upstate NY to be with me in Houston, allowing my husband and daughter to continue their routine undisturbed. Since we’ll be reunited for Christmas, I really don’t mind spending this time apart with what feels like everyone where they are supposed to be.

Radiation has been tougher on me than I expected. I need to keep up with my anti-nausea regimen or pay the price. And I spend a lot of time asleep or somewhere between asleep/awake as I watch TV on the couch. My dad is an excellent caretaker; he’s attentive and takes feedback well. We’ve been bonding, learning about times in each others lives we don’t know much about.

In a continuation of my amazing luck, I got a call at the beginning of this week that I got a slot in a new trial. It’s a highly sought after spot because it is a new immunotherapy drug and this is the last one at the current dose. After I start there’s a safety period to see how I and the others in my dose cohort tolerate the drug before opening up slots in the next and final dose level. I love that the timing works out that I am already here in Houston for the screenings I need to go through to finish qualifying for the slot. I am a little sad that it means I will need to spend time in Houston the week of New Year’s, I was hoping I’d get to recover from radiation a bit longer, but it is not worth giving up this slot for. And this trial has a very low time commitment from me – after the initial infusion day I only need to stay one more day for a blood draw and then I can head home. I’ll need to do weekly visits for this first round, but then that’s it, I just show up for infusion every 3 weeks. This will be so much easier on my body than the travel required for that last trial.

Oh, which reminds me that I should mention my travel fix. I made it clear in my last post that I was not going to be driving myself to Houston, I was going to find another solution. I did indeed, something my lovely host Jacki suggested ages ago and I always ignored. It’s called the VonLane bus, a luxury bus that runs between the major cities in Texas. Currently they won’t sell seats next to each other and masks are required, so it feels as safe as possible in this climate. This isn’t an ad or anything, I just wanted to share the info for anyone curious.

That brings us to a close. My joy this week has been my incredible fortune in so many areas. I’m trying to appreciate every bit of it, including that today is my day off from radiation treatment. I hope you are all experiencing good things as well, my friends.

Weekly Update #90

I am definitely not keeping up with the “weekly” claimed in this entry’s title, but am here today and not going to overthink it.

I want to talk a little bit about why I have been writing so infrequently. Some of it is lack of energy. But some of it is that I feel like I only have bad news to share recently, and I want to talk frankly from the place of beginning to accept that I have probably moved from chronic to terminal disease. It is a bummer to share this stuff and feel like I am hurting the people that I love. I don’t want to cause pain. But I have realized recently that keeping it all inside is contributing to how badly I have been feeling. Each time I share my worries a bit I have an immediate energy boost afterwards. And I want this to be a place for me to be honest about the good and the bad. So, I am going to show up more, and if you want to keep reading, it may get harder.

I did get my second dose of my trial drug at MD Anderson last week and stayed a few days for blood work, which was all uneventful. I also had my day 8 blood work earlier this week. The plan was that then next week I’d go in for day 15 blood work and then the week after that for my scan and hopefully dose 3 and from then on my commitment would drop significantly, to only showing up for my infusions every 3 weeks. Unfortunately, we’re changing the plan.

On Wednesday of this week I felt awful all day. Blacking out when I stood up and so short of breath and alternately sweating and covered in goosebumps. And then I passed some blood in my bowels, which is especially odd since they aren’t hooked up to the rest of my digestive system, and I threw up. At that point I called my trial doctor and she told me to go to the ER. I cried while I listened to her instructions, so scared to head into an ER right now, knowing she was sending me because the COVID risk was worth it. She told me that the blood I was passing was likely from the tumor in my colon, which makes sense. Then she added that it is likely a sign that the tumor is growing, so she is going to move my next scan up by a week. She did also mention that shrinking tumors can bleed, but didn’t seem to think that was as likely.

I only spent a few hours in the ER. They did a COVID test, which was negative, and some generic blood work which all looked good. They also did a chest CT which showed no blood clots (a concern because I was so short of breath) but possibly the start of some pneumonia. So they sent me home with antibiotics and instructions to come back if I felt bad again or got a fever. I am truly glad they only scanned by chest and not my pelvis. I was not ready to learn what is going on, alone in the ER on the night before Thanksgiving. I am happy to spend these few days blissfully ignorant and then deal with the news next week when I receive it.

Oh, I should mention that I had an ultrasound earlier this week to check on my hydronephrosis and the test showed it looked the same. So, still no need for a stent, yay. I also learned that I had no idea where my kidneys are, definitely not the area of my pelvis that has been hurting and I have been imagining is my kidneys swelling to bursting. Unfortunately I looked it up and the part of my pelvis that has been aching off and on for weeks is where my appendix is, so I’ll be bringing that up with my MDA team when I see them next week.

For now I wait for my schedule at MDA to update so I know when to show up for my scan and the results. I have a local cancer friend who has his regular MDA appointments next week as well, so we’re going to try to meet up and even possibly have him come with me to the appointment where I get my scan results, so I don’t have to go alone. I’m not allowed to bring in an outside visitor, but if he’s already allowed to be in the building, I don’t see why he can’t join me for my appointment.

My joy for this week has been the family time together. Thanksgiving yesterday was a wonderful day of cooking and eating and time together. My daughter took all the initiative on planning the activities for our annual advent calendar and I am bursting with pride at her resilience and creativity. I hope you are all having wonderful time off and not traveling anywhere to see anyone, to help keep people like me safe.

Weekly Update #89

I know I have worried a lot of folks with my long radio silence. I’m here, I have just been having a rough time lately.

Before I get into that, I want to mention that I was interviewed for a podcast called Grief Is A Sneaky Bitch and the episode came out this week! I talk about the pre-grieving I am doing, knowing I am chronically ill and death is on my horizon, and the host, Lisa Keefauver is an amazing expert on grief. Here’s a link to my episode, I think you will really like it.

So, as I opened with, I have been having a hard time recently. I wasn’t ready to talk about it last time I posted, but when I had a CT scan just before starting the trial, it showed that there’s some activity in my pelvis. There’s a mass that involves my original tumor site and my cervix that they can’t tell from the pictures whether it’s a recurrence at my original site (most likely) or new cervical cancer (unlikely). The mass is squishing one of my ureters, the tube between your kidney and your bladder, so we’re keeping an eye on it and some point we’ll need to have a stent placed to make sure my ureter can keep on draining.

This news was really scary to hear. I haven’t been able to share it with almost anyone, it just feels so awful. Since reading that radiology report, I have noticed discomfort in my pelvis and it has gotten into my head that I am feeling my body rot away. I recognize that only having these sensations after reading about the mass indicates that maybe my anxiety brain is involved in the feelings, but that doesn’t remove the fear it brings to my body.

Along with this, my appetite has plummeted again. I’ve lost more weight and am about to start some meds to stimulate my appetite and prevent me from feeling full so quickly. My nutrition situation is so bad, I’m starting to get winded just walking around the house because I don’t have the energy to support myself and I’ve been losing muscle mass. So I’m trying to do just 10 minutes of walking outdoors each day and my nutritionist and I brainstormed a few options to increase my intake. I feel embarrassed that I can’t solve this problem that has been ongoing since July, and my nutritionist always makes me feel better by reminding me that I really am trying my hardest. Unintentional weight loss has never been an issue for me in my life, but man is it hard to force yourself to eat when food is unappetizing.

I’m sure not eating enough is contributing to my mood, which has been low lately, too. I feel like that is finally improving. I have the energy today to write this post. And I can imagine replying to an email or two (so sorry if you’re waiting in my inbox). My mood is still precarious, but Biden winning the election is definitely helping to tilt everything towards more manageable right now.

Next week I head back to MD Anderson for my second dose of my trial med. It should all go smoothly now that I know what to expect. I’ll miss my family for a week, but it will be the last full week I’ll need to be away for the trial. And truly, it is very joyful to get to spend time with my friend and her family while I’m there.

My joy for this past week is that Joe Biden won the election. When I saw the results and felt hope, I realized what an unfamiliar sensation it is in my body and frankly I didn’t like it. But I’ve experienced it more and more this week and it is starting to feel really good. I am excited for his presidency to begin and for us to undo the mess caused by the Trump administration. And also to watch Trump et al. go to jail. I’m excited about that, too.

Weekly Update #88

It feels like everyday in the last two weeks since I last wrote could be an entry of its own, but that’s not quite true. What is true is that it has been an overwhelming whirlwind of activity and I’m not quite through it yet.

I decided to go with the trial at MD Anderson (MDA) after consultation with my medical team and my family. My medical team made it clear that I had several good trial options that it would make sense to try (with the MDA one being a little better) and that what I should consider heavily is who I wanted to treat me. I have nothing negative to say about the clinic in San Antonio, but I had such a great connection with the trial doctor at MDA. Weighing heavily in favor of Houston is also that I have friends here who I stay with and visit with, making it a far less lonely prospect than San Antonio where I have no connection. And finally, the history at MDA, even though it wasn’t 100% positive experiences, gave me a level of comfort that I lacked in San Antonio.

I am glad that I did have that prior history with MDA, because it truly is like a machine here that you get on and go wherever it takes you, and it ma have scared me enough to back out if this were my first time here. Appointments show up on your calendar and you get what you get and you don’t get upset. And then they’ll disappear and be rescheduled for a different day with the same department but somehow a different building? I found the scheduling part left me feeling unmoored, waiting to find out what was planned for me and mostly without the ability to give input. One thing on my side was that my trial coordinator was the one who knew everything I needed scheduled and how the process was going, so I was able to get some updates from her.

She was also able to help me out with my only scheduling dealbreaker – please let me be home on my daughter’s 9th birthday. I had a blood draw that was technically supposed to be that day, but she found the note in the protocol that said it could be done the day before. I do all this cancer treatment so that I can show up and be a mom to her, and I so appreciate that my coordinator saw that – those are the things that make you feel like a person and not just a patient.

It is exhausting to detail all the tests I’ve done, but I want to have it here for people who read this and want to know about trial life, and for myself to look back on. Last week I made a day trip for blood work and a set of EKGs and an eye check up, all to check that I was good for the study, and an x-ray to prove that the port I had inserted at another facility is real. I am glad I had that eye exam because it turns out that my prescription has changed a ton in the last year and I need new glasses. I came back this week for a COVID test (negative) in advance of a lung biopsy. That biopsy attempt went poorly and I had a panic attack on the table. So a second biopsy, this time with anesthesia, was scheduled for the following day. Oh, and then I had a CT. I had to spend the night because of the anesthesia, which was a good rule, I truly was in no shape to drive. I finally got to go home and spend one night in my own bed and with my family. And then the next evening I came back because I had to be at the hospital at 7:30am today.

And then there’s today. More blood work and EKGs and eye check ups. A visit with the doctor to make sure I was ready to start the trial. And then boom, the trial itself. It is fascinating to watch happen, so many moving parts that have to be precisely orchestrated. Pre-chemo blood draws timed just right before the chemo starts and then a line of EKG and blood draw folks outside because their tests need to be done within a set number of minutes after chemo ends, but with a definite hierarchy that I am not privy to. At one point I had both elbow veins accessed plus my port and the little sticky pads for EKGs all over me for later. One elbow vein is for blood draws, they do them at a different site than where the chemo is infused. And my port wasn’t working so they had to access an elbow vein instead (3rd time for that poor baby today), but left my port accessed so that the port specialists could give me some anti-blood-clotting agent. It’s been 3+ hours and they haven’t arrived, but their window doesn’t close for another 40 minutes. After that it will be too late for today and I’ll instead deal with it next time.

This is so long and I’m sure so indicative of how wearing this process is. I’m feeling better now that its underway. And my moment of joy from the past two weeks is sitting on the couch with my dad and stepmom, listening to my daughter play piano for us. I had a lovely visit with them, and hearing her play, the proof of her hard work and the thing that she loves, fills me to the brim with joy.

Weekly Update #87

This week I went to MD Anderson to talk to their clinical trial team. I expected it would go like my visit to another clinical trial team a week before – get examined and leave with some trial options to discuss later – but instead I consented to a trial then and there.

It was intense getting to that consent and it turned out to be an illustrative process. When the doctor came into the room she told me a little about the trial, said she would have me chat with the study coordinator, then she’d come back and answer questions. Then if I felt comfortable I could sign the consent form. Going through the trial with the coordinator was great but I still did have questions. Unfortunately when the doctor returned she handed me the pen to e-sign my consent, told me I should get a flu shot and she’d have her nurse do it, and then she left. I had thought that at some point I would get to ask my questions but the moment for that just never came.

I burst into tears then, overwhelmed, not knowing what was coming next in the trial and still with concerns about the side effects. While sitting there I got a text from the trial coordinator, giving me her number. I wrote back saying I still had questions and she called me to try to answer them. I began sobbing on the phone to her and she told me the doctor would be right back in. The exchange we had when the doctor returned was amazing. I was really scared because some of the side effects will make it so I can’t drive and no longer allow me to be independent. I’ve gotten through the past 5 years by being independent and it terrified me to imagine losing that. The doctor really heard my concerns, addressed them with science, yet never negated them or told me they were dumb or invalid. Then she gave me her cell phone number. At that moment, I was in with her. I trusted her that she would listen to me, wanted to hear my concerns whenever they came up, and that she would help me without minimizing the emotional toll this process takes.

That said, I still do not know for sure that I will go with the MD Anderson trial. I do still have choices in San Antonio and need to chat with my home doctors to rank them. The experiences in the two places would be very different. MD Anderson is a machine where appointments just show up on your calendar, you have no idea with whom or why, no visitors are allowed unless you need mobility assistance, but it also has amenities like a cafeteria and a hair salon and a room with a gorgeous view of Houston. Also I have people in Houston. San Antonio is going to be getting called to find out when an appointment is most convenient and visitors being able to join the infusion center when it’s quiet and potentially needing to get support from outside the clinic. I have no idea where to grab a bite or find a hotel, though these are solvable problems. I don’t know anyone in San Antonio that I could call on for assistance there. It is a lot to weigh and I am letting myself feel overwhelmed by it; it is going to shape what my next few months look like.

My dad and stepmom get into town today, having driven 2,000 miles in an RV to see us. I will doubtless have follow-up appointments at some clinic next week and it will be nice to bring my dad with me; we’ll have to see if we can sneak him in.

My joy for this week was a lovely birthday. It was the day I was in Houston, but I ended up feeling safe there and then came home to a quiet and perfect night with my family. I’m 37 now and this birthday, like each of the past 5, was hard-fought for.

Weekly Update #86

There is so much news from this past week! And my mood is far better than it was last week, when I just felt sad.

On Tuesday I went to San Antonio to visit with a site for phase I clinical trials. We started the process of assessing if I am a good fit for the trials, which includes giving samples and having ECGs done. I also had a physical exam by the doc, which included testing the strength in my limbs. It matters that I am well enough to handle the rigors of a trial and so far it doesn’t look like my underlying health will exclude me. I left with 3 trial options to look over and an appointment to come back in two weeks and discuss them. For the trials I got the huge informed consent documents which include the treatment protocol and how often I’ll need to be at the clinic as well as anticipated side effects and info on the confidentiality around my info.

One thing that is interesting to me is that somehow the definitions of phase has shifted and there are now phase I trials that are not dose exploration, where they find the highest tolerable dose, but dose expansion, where they have more people on that dose and see how they do. A dose expansion trial is much more interesting to me than dose exploration, as I have discussed before.

I also received a phone call from MD Anderson this week setting me up for an appointment with the clinical trial team there. The good news is I get to skip the bureaucratic step of visiting my “current” doctor there. The bummer news is that I will have to be there early in the morning on my birthday. I am trying to see it as a gift that I have this opportunity, but really the gift is that I will get to have socially distant lunch with one of my best friends who happens to live there.

My joy for the week is that I decided to take a measured risk last weekend and rent a house in town with 3 friends who have been as COVID-careful as me. It was so restorative to see their whole faces and hug and laugh together and eat well and just not feel on guard. The house we rented was a trip, filled with original artwork of varied styles and themes. We had a really lovely time and I came home with so much energy after having my soul refilled a bit.

Weekly Update #85

Things have not been great since I posted last week.

On Monday I emailed my doctors a few questions to get a better idea of what might come along with my different options. One of the questions I asked was, what if we do nothing, how long until my disease becomes life-threatening? And the answer is months. It’s a range, so they don’t necessarily mean the 2-3 your brain may jump to, just that it won’t be years. I was shocked by the reply. My body feels fine, how can my tiny cancer grow and ruin it so fast? I don’t know and don’t want to, I just hate it. Anytime I try to process it I think of EOL, so I will be working on all that paperwork soon.

Since I do not feel done yet, my only option is a clinical trial. I have already been contacted by the team in San Antonio and will go visit them next week. I am still waiting to be contacted by MD Anderson, where I have to have an initial visit with my “current” oncologist and then I’ll go home and he will refer me to the phase 1 team. Bureaucracy will bureaucrat and then I go back for an appointment with the clinical trial team. This all means that there are multiple options available to me. I will be in a clinical trial. We just don’t know which one yet.

One bummer thing I have had to talk with some members of my team about is false optimism. There’s research showing that as you near EOL, doctors you have a close relationship with may be more optimistic than called for, because they personally don’t want anything bad to happen to you. And since my doctor ended a phone call with me this week by saying, “I love you” I think I have a reason to be concerned. I had team members reassure me that they are aware and worried, too, about whether I’ll get accurate info. We have a few doctors at the clinic that we are maintaining a distance from so they can be there later to give unbiased opinions on my case. It’s a relief to know my clinic was already ahead of me on this.

Now is when I usually post a moment of joy from the week. It was a nice weekend with my family. We watch a midday movie on Sundays that one of the grown-ups picks, generally rewatches of things from our youths. This week my husband picked the little known move Brain Donors and it made my daughter laugh so hard. I love when she just giggles and giggles.